Changes

Moving to the other side of the country from your entire life is fantastic for perspective. I'm not usually one to talk about a lot of personal things on this blog--I think it's great that other people feel comfortable with this, but I'm just not one of those people. I like my personal business to be my personal business.

But I feel like I should share, at least vaguely, the gist of some things that have been happening around here and going on in my/our heads.

Since coming back out here last fall--after being about for 9 months (thanks, Military)--we've had our ups and our downs...to say the least. We've been on the brink of major relationship changes, and on the brink of having children...in a very short period of time. We're finally at a place in which we seem to be back to being a married couple who actually enjoy each other (most the time ;)), and it's quite nice.

We've also had the opportunity to think about our lives and the differences there are between living here and living in our hometown 18 hours away. We both know we want to move back there. Originally, we wanted to move back because everything we ever knew was there, and we just weren't used to being in the unknown. After being out here for 6 months, we are now pretty aware that we mostly just want to move back for family. It's important to us to have our children grow up around family. But, at this point, we've realized that this is pretty much all that's there for us. We do not get phone calls, ever, from any of our joint friends in our hometown that we've had for years. They do not have any idea what is going on in our lives. Granted yes, the phone works both ways (and we tried for a little while), but we aren't the ones who have schedules who make us difficult to contact. I talk more to a couple friends who I wasn't that close too before we moved than my closest friends. It's a sad, lengthily avoided, realization that our friends are pretty much friends out of convenience. We will move back, but it probably won't be to our old lives. It was probably time for all this to be happening. We've had the same friends for nearly a decade, and it's said that most adults change friends every seven years.

It's odd to call ourselves adults, even though we have been in that realm for years now. But the last six months have made this a tough realization for us--we've been "hazed" in!

Here's to the (new) future!